If ever you think it doesn’t make a difference whether you offer a gentle word of condolence to someone suffering loss, please know it makes all the difference. You may think ‘oh, there’s nothing I can do– my saying sorry can’t help much’ but I am here to tell you— when the community around you fills your mailbox and home with cards, care packages, bouquets of flowers and your social media overflows with words of comfort, kindness, love and affection– the cumulative power of each individual touch on the arm is enormous.
I have read and taken into my heart each and every comment that has been left for me on Instagram and Facebook. The energy of love compassion and understanding supported me so deeply. I don’t have the means to reach out to each of you to say thank you– so please know– I am so very grateful for this extraordinary community that I belong to.
such caring, loving souls. THANK YOU.
We should all leave this world wrapped in love and comfort as Daisy did. She left this world like an Egyptian princess— our vet came to the house and I got to hold her right in her favorite spot on the living room floor. Oliver was right by her side, giving her the occasional lick to the nose. We buried Daisy in the backyard under the two giant maple trees where I can see her from my kitchen window and, each morning Ollie and I go out and sit with her while I drink my coffee.
Several of you have asked how Ollie is doing and the update is: he’s hanging in there. Daisy was 11. Oliver is 15. I don’t know how much time I have left with him so we are keeping close. He has gotten a little bit cling-y and his spirit is definitely sad.
We have spent a lot of time with other people in the past two weeks so he has gotten lots of attention, but I think he feels her absence pretty strongly.
Most likely because I have yet to launder all the dog beds etc which surely still have her scent on them– but it has been super busy around here and I am trying to keep myself grounded and centered.
What I can tell you is that life is beautiful.
That joy and sorrow is just one endless loop.
The key is to be in this moment, this one here– as fully as you possibly can– so that you can ride the wave through all the ups and downs — squeezing out every bit of the experience until it lands you on the beach, safe, exhilarated, exhausted, wiped out and flat on your back, gazing up at the sky — the wide blue expanse not nearly big enough to hold all the gratitude in your heart.